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Why Now? And Why Me?

How did we get here with this Covid-19 Virus? Who can we blame? How do I act? What do I do with this information? Who "screwed up"? Why can't I (moi) get out of this mess?

We have all asked those questions...I have gone through anger, disbelief, bargaining, depression, and stoicism...trying to find MY solution, and MY way to deal healthily with this MESS of a situation...

Here is part of my solutions and concepts of how we got ourselves into this mess: 1) We, as Americans, became obsessed with "MY rights", "ME: not You rightness", exclusion of those who are different than us, and "the earth is my home: but I refuse to care for it: I'll do it MY way"! That is partly how we got here, in this Covid mess.

How can I healthily deal with this situation? I share from my personal experience, hoping that some of what I am discovering, will help you and others.

*Focus on my Self-Care. What am I doing to stay healthy mentally, physically, and emotionally. Isolating does tend to lead to depression. What am I doing, that although I have to isolate: will help me have a positive outlook on life? What am I doing, to stay emotionally resilient? physically healthy, personally cleansed, and activate the fun, creativity, and serendipity in life? I find journaling often helps me find answers to questions like this.

*Focus on Service to Others: What can I do, during this pandemic isolation to service, benefit, or aid others less fortunate than me? For me, this is, donating time to pick up groceries for others; donating money to charities close to my heart, by being encouraging on websites like "" and in emails and texts to friends and families. Writing handwritten letters to friends and families, as somehow emails just do not seem appropriate during this time. Serving my family through meals, cleaning house, surfaces, and doorknobs; and giving love and praise.

*Focus on Keeping a PMA (Positive Mental Attitude) for myself. For me this includes, time in the sun daily, time in water of some kind (bath, pool, rain, go to lake). Journal my emotions into my journal (gets them out of my head, and onto paper). Time with friends, via Zoom, apps, phone calls, texts. Fun: dance parties at home, playing games, being creative. Personal time alone and away from my family: walks in nature, time in my room, time puttering, and creativity.

*Staying goal-focused but not being obsessive about it. I have my weekly goals and intentions but find (due to the excess stress of staying at home with two other people) achieving them is difficult. I give myself leniency and let myself off the hook: if I do not perfectly complete the goals or intentions. I tend to be a perfectionist, so know I tend to be difficult on myself and others: so I give myself and others compassion ("a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering."). That feeling of compassion towards myself or others, gives great love and feelings of love towards others. It helps me feel gracious and graceful with myself and others.

* Meditation at least once a day, and sometimes more. Meditation and prayer helps my peace of mind.

Please comment below about things you are doing to stay emotionally, physically, and mentally healthy during this time.



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